I want her to be happy
I just want you to be happy
I hope Alexa and Siri can make him happy :)
Well, even though as well-meaning as these sentiments are, they don't result in someone to raise their happiness quotient. We can never make others happy, it is their responsibility. Similarly, we are responsible for our own happiness.
Yes, you can lead with happiness and share your happiness with others. You can also invite others to participate into your life and add to your happiness. However, you have to first lead with happiness. The onus is on you to create your own happiness first.
So, what are some creative ways to lead with happiness and create your own happiness. Below are simple and effective strategies that anyone can do and see instant results for themselves -
Smile - You smile first and happiness ensues. Most of us have this backward. We wait for some external event to occur before we flash a smile. A smile is formed primarily by flexing the muscles at the sides of the mouth . Recent studies in science have shown that the mere act of smiling can lift your mood, lower stress, boost your immune system and possibly even prolong your life. So turn that frown upside down, smile first and often which can trick your brain into happiness and boost your health
Gratitude - When you are grateful, stress disappears and happiness appears. It is the best antidote to fear. It can be as simple as being grateful for the little things in life i.e. the wind on your face, the beautiful sunset, the fact that you are alive and breathing today. You can expand your gratitude to the quality of relationships, your successes, the blessings in your life. Let that feeling of gratitude wash over you, so you can feel its effect
Actualization - Being grateful is just half the equation. Recent studies have shown that we all have a default set-point of happiness. However, you can increase the set-point by taking action towards your goals and what you truly desire. Get clear on what you truly want, and begin working towards it. Happiness happens when you are making progress towards these goals.
We all have limited time on this planet, let's make it count. Do what makes you happy and fulfilled, and discard what doesn't.
Here's a question for you to ponder this week...
What makes you happy? What can you do more of this decade? What should you do less of?
With Love and Respect
Kaushal Aras, known professionally as 'Kal Aras' is a Happiness engineer; Leadership keynote speaker and founder of 'Wisdom of Friends' show. He helps people expand their happiness and companies boost productivity and employee engagement for bottom line results